Let you see through those scumbags in minutes

In this era where scumbags are rampant, it is really difficult for girls to find true love of their own, especially when they have to tell whether their partner is a scumbag or not when their IQ is zero. This is even more difficult. If you meet a scumbag, you should give up on him, otherwise the deeper you fall into the trap, the deeper the hurt will be.

1. Rough treatment

A bad guy will hurt you intentionally. If he hits you, pulls your hair, or deliberately destroys something you love, even just once, leave him immediately. Emotional stability is very important for a man. If he changes his mind faster than turning the pages of a book, everything else is meaningless.

2. Quickly build relationships and express affection

He says "I love you" or wants to marry you soon after meeting you, and you soon hear sweet words. Don't get carried away! He's trying to lock you down, and even if he really likes you, it will be mostly possessive, requiring you to devote all your energy to him, which is extremely selfish. It takes a long time for normal adults to develop a serious intimate relationship and a certain amount of time to get to know each other well. A scumbag who makes promises quickly will abandon you just as quickly.

3. Weird temper

Bad guys can be very scary sometimes: they drive recklessly, destroy things, fight, or threaten others - and one day their anger will be vented on you. Even though the scumbag assures you that he will not do this to you, he actually intends to let you know that if you offend him one day, he may do the same to you. Gradually, you begin to fear him, afraid that his bad temper and violence will befall you, and thus become even more timid and afraid to break up.

4. Kill your confidence

A jerk will put you down repeatedly and often. He will constantly correct your little mistakes and faults, making you feel nervous and stupid all the time. After he gradually eats away at your confidence and self-esteem, you will be grateful to him for not abandoning you and believing that he is your savior; while he can continue to abuse you mentally even more severely.

5. Cut off your external support

A scumbag will tell you that your friends are taking advantage of you or cannot understand the love between you, and your daily contact with family will be interrupted by his bad temper. It seems that there is only you in his world, and there can be no one else in your world. Once you are isolated from other people, it is easier for the scumbag to increase his control over you.

6. The cycle of abuse + consideration

You will be scolded and threatened for some trivial things, and the next day he will suddenly become gentle and considerate, so you stay, hoping that this will be the last time, but it happens every time, and you will eventually soften your heart. The cycle of abuse is meant to erode your self-esteem and self-confidence, while consideration makes it even more difficult for you to leave him. A scumbag will often apologize profusely afterwards, but he will be secretly happy that he has played you around.

7. You are always wrong

If a scumbag gets angry or does something wrong, he will blame you. When he cheats on you, yells at you, and publicly humiliates you - somehow it's all your fault. The scumbag will tell you that if you didn't make those mistakes, if you could love him more, he wouldn't be angry and wouldn't do those excessive things. A jerk will never take responsibility for his own actions - the blame is always someone else's. Stay away from him, okay?

8. Breakup Panic

When you propose to end the relationship, he will often break down and cry, and swear to change. The scumbag may threaten to commit suicide or leave the place - as if you forced him to do this and you are always responsible for him. A bad guy will make a lot of concessions and offer compromises, such as "Let's continue for another month!" If you go back to him, the next time you want to break up, you will be afraid of encountering a worse and stronger reaction. Once you fall into the control of a scumbag, escaping next time will be doubly difficult.

9. Neurotic Control

A bad man will constantly check up on you and keep track of where you are and who you are with. If you talk to someone of the opposite sex and if you don't answer his call, he will ask you where you are and what you are doing. Some scumbags will follow you, pretend not to know afterwards, and ask you if you have been somewhere to test whether you are lying. In serious cases, they will look through your records, search your wallet, or even go through your trash looking for evidence. Gradually, you become afraid to go anywhere else and simply stay at home waiting for him to question you. The scumbag himself may participate in various social activities as he pleases and can control you even when he is not present.

10. shirking responsibility

Whenever a scumbag talks about the past, he always emphasizes that it was the other party who betrayed or hurt him, and that he had no problem. You can check his previous Weibo or Renren to see if it is true what he said. But generally speaking, a man who speaks ill of his ex-girlfriend is unreliable. If he speaks ill of others, he will also speak ill of you. He will be unfaithful to others and is unlikely to be loyal to you.

11. Waiter Principle

It is said that how he treats waiters or other opposite sex when you are on a date is how he will treat you six months later. During the "honeymoon period", he may carefully treat you like a princess. But once you become familiar with the waiter, his attitude towards you may also be his attitude towards you. If he is stingy, you don't have to expect to receive any gifts after the honeymoon period; if he grumbles, complains, and criticizes, you will be the one suffering from it in six months. The behaviors of mentally normal people are basically the same. Can a vicious person have healthy and warm interpersonal relationships?

12. Self-centeredness