The impact of aesthetic differences on marriage

The impact of aesthetic differences on marriage

A few days ago, a friend sent me a bunch of photos. He wanted to see the difference between the women I selected with my professional physiognomy eyes and the women he selected based on his preferences. After selecting, the difference was indeed quite large. My friend said that this was the difference between ancient aesthetics and modern aesthetics. I said that was not true. In fact, there has never been a distinction between ancient and modern. Aesthetics is a kind of cultural consciousness. There is only a difference between the East and the West.

In art, Chinese people like to express ideas while Westerners like realism. This is because China has vast and fertile land and needs more illusory spiritual enjoyment, while Westerners have poor land and face high risks for survival, so they yearn for the most real side.

The same is true of China's view on women. Women are yin, earth, and tolerance. Blood is very important to women. The beauty of oriental women comes from being quiet and warm. A woman who is calm and even-tempered and emotionally stable is the most ideal breeding ground for the growth and development of her offspring physiologically. Psychological stability will also bring stability to the family. In physiognomy, it is also mainly about not being ostentatious. The requirement is roundness. Roundness does not mean fatness. For example, a round waist refers to the shape and overall plumpness without revealing it. On the contrary, if there is loose fat, it is not good, and it is a sign of shortened lifespan. However, a waist as thin as a willow indicates dissolute and lowly behavior. At most, it can be regarded as a plaything and is not loved. There are clear requirements for buttocks, waist, and legs, but there is absolutely no beauty because of being thin or bony. This is not only a matter of personal preference, but the answer based on a comprehensive evaluation of culture, social form, physiological needs, family and other aspects.

However, the living conditions of Westerners are insufficient, so women are required to be strong and have a spirit of adventure. Therefore, when Eastern men see Western women building bodybuilding muscles, they are not interested, but Western men find it sexy. Now, in order to keep up with the international standards, or to keep up with the West, Eastern women are also learning to build big muscles. That is not called bodybuilding, that is called ugly fitness. Western women stimulate the opposite sex with wildness and boldness, while Eastern women conquer the opposite sex with gentleness and tenderness. This also represents the essential differences in the living conditions and needs of Eastern and Western men. Compared with the two, Westerners have better physique and physical fitness, while Easterners are more intelligent. This is a reflection of the different levels of civilization.

So Western women enjoy mud wrestling and men get excited watching them, but I don't believe Chinese men find that sexy. On the contrary, Chinese men feel more comfortable in flexibility events like gymnastics and trampoline, because different cultural backgrounds form different tastes, and Western tastes do not mean advancement, just as there is no absolute high or low in culture. Chinese men's tastes are now confused, and they impose that kind of inadaptability on themselves.

Western aesthetics used to be dominated by plump and gentle images, because that era was guided by the Western aristocratic aesthetic. Later, especially after World War II, the aesthetics of the general public came to the fore, and the beauty of individuality with prominent bone shapes emerged. Because men and women in the West lead more independent lives, and men and women have the same responsibilities in life, women can also express their personalities in the same way as men. This is the main reason for the huge difference in Western aesthetics before and after World War II.

In China, many young men unknowingly choose women with strong personalities because they are attracted by their personalities. This is mainly due to the strong impact of Western culture and their complete lack of understanding of traditional Chinese culture, which makes many of them think that accepting Western things is good. In fact, no matter how open and free Chinese women are, it is impossible for them to have the same awakening of freedom consciousness as Western women, and to be completely equal to men in terms of material, family, and offspring responsibilities. This is absolutely impossible. Even if they think they are awesome female warriors, they are unwilling to bear the same material and spiritual burdens as men. So China forced itself to learn from the West, but ended up with a mess and ended up hurting itself.

I don’t know how high the divorce rate is in the West, but I know that China’s divorce rate is no lower than that in the West. I think modern men and women need to seriously examine their choices and orientations. Where exactly have they gone wrong? Are what they have always believed to be right actually the source of error?

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