Which comes first, starting a family or establishing a career?

Which comes first, starting a family or establishing a career?

Should one start a family or a career first? This was a simple question in ancient times, but it troubles many young men today.

There have been some real-life examples showing that quite a few men were very romantic during their student days, and some even changed several girlfriends in one semester. However, once they entered middle age, they were still not married, and instead became less interested in love, and even didn't know how to have a girlfriend. Why is that? This is because the halo and achievements of career have surpassed the temptation of the opposite sex in one's consciousness. Just like in Taoist practice, although people who meditate in the early stages can concentrate and calm their spirit, their qi and meridians are not clear, and their sexual desire will be stronger. If their qi and meridians are unblocked, it is said that an incomparable pleasure will be formed and refined in the brain. When one experiences that this pleasure exceeds sexual desire, one will naturally become indifferent to sex.

In traditional Chinese culture, people have always started a family and a career. Starting a family comes before starting a career. Starting a family is the foundation of a career. Family is the foundation of a person, so Chinese people attach great importance to family business, reputation and ancestral property. Chinese people are not like Westerners, who float out like duckweed and believe that the meaning of life is to pioneer and explore. Chinese people pay attention to strategies and can attack or defend. Home is the last place to defend. If a person does not start a family, he will not be respected in terms of starting a career. Because you are always immature, a person who doesn't even know how to manage a home, let alone a region or a country. Therefore, in traditional culture, managing the family is the first choice.

However, in modern society, the various rigid conditions for starting a family are not optimistic. Which modern woman does not consider the realistic conditions? Therefore, many modern men believe that in order to get a good woman, they must first have a good house, then a car, then a wife, and then children. To do all these, you need money, and money won't fall from the sky. You have to achieve it through a career. A man with a career won't worry about not being able to find a wife.

In fact, there are many men who marry early in society. In addition to those whose family property can solve the above-mentioned problems, most of them are people who have a stable job and a steady income and will never worry about being laid off. Why do these people get married early? There are environmental factors involved, as well as real life conditions.

From the perspective of physiognomy, a man who can truly develop his career will not reject early marriage, even if his career has not yet started, especially a man who has a good fortune, is independent and motivated, such as a man with a square face, long eyebrows, and a broad forehead. These are not signs of a late wife. However, men who focus on their career first and get married only when they have good conditions later, often find that the gap between him and his wife is very far apart. Although they sleep in the same bed, they sometimes feel extremely strange. For example, his appearance, temperament, academic qualifications and connotation are all top choices, but the wife does not understand his struggle history, and it is difficult for her to know what her husband needs, what he is worried about and why he is excited.

Generally, men who marry late have three characteristics. First, they have a repressed temperament, so they often frown. Second, they have small ears, and they are timid and hesitant in doing things. Third, they have short or sparse eyebrows and lack energy. These three characteristics combined make them lack confidence, and they can only cover up their inner depression with external conditions and material things. Such men are often easily frustrated in their careers and make slow progress. Even if they will achieve great success later in life, they will actually leave many regrets in their marriage and emotions.

In fact, whether to start a family first or to build a career first is not the key to the problem. The key is that you should work hard to achieve the kind of life you want. Although material conditions are restrictive factors, if you don't try hard, you will only regret it later. This is always a personal plan for life. Some people's passion for career reaches its strongest point, which makes them stagnate because of marriage. Some people retreat in the face of a good marriage because of their career and conditions. In this diversified society, these are all bad reactions.

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