The secret of handshake in social interaction: seeing people's personality from handshake

The human handshake evolved from the primitive gesture of raising both hands (to indicate the absence of weapons), and later adopted the Roman gesture of touching hands to the chest to express greetings. During the Roman Empire, people did not greet each other by shaking hands, but by grasping each other's forearms. In modern times, a handshake is a sign of welcome. Open palms indicate openness, while touching palms indicate becoming one.

Although shaking hands is a simple form of greeting, everyone shakes hands differently. American psychologist Elaine Garland pointed out in her book that the way a person shakes hands with others can reflect his personality.

This is common sense that is relatively easy to understand: someone who shakes hands vigorously usually shows that he is very proactive and full of confidence. On the contrary, someone who does not shake hands vigorously certainly shows that he is weak or has a fragile character. People who keep going up to shake hands with strangers at a dance party or in public are people with rich social experience and a desire for self-expression.

Specifically, how can we understand the other person's subtle psychological activities by shaking hands? In fact, there are many ways, but the most representative method is to judge by the temperature of the hands.

In the human body, when emotional changes such as fear or fright occur, the autonomic nervous consciousness that has nothing to do with oneself will suddenly become active, causing respiratory tension, changes in blood pressure and pulse, or excitement of sweat glands. If you shake hands with someone and find that his palms are sweaty, this means that the other person is in a state of high spirits, or it can be said that he is losing his psychological balance. Some women appear cold on the surface, but if you hold her hand, you will find that her palms are sweaty. This is because the man's appearance, body, language, atmosphere, etc., arouse some kind of excitement in her.

From this we can see that we can peek into the other person's inner secrets by the strength of the handshake and the feeling of the palms.

There is a well-known Colombo detective's handshake method in Japan, which says that once this detective shakes hands with a criminal, he immediately puts the criminal into an unfavorable situation. Because this criminal policeman shook hands with great force and at the same time raised his upper eyelids to look into the other person's eyes. The prisoner's hand was held, and as soon as it came into contact with the detective's vision pattern, he would feel uneasy. After forcing the criminal into this psychological state, the Colombo detective used his clever reasoning skills to gradually penetrate into the other person's heart.

Below are different ways of shaking hands listed by American psychologists and the information they reveal about inner changes.

1. Tendon-breaking and bone-breaking type

When shaking hands, grasp the other person's palm tightly and squeeze it hard, causing the other person unbearable pain. Such people are energetic, confident, and tend to be autocratic, but they have outstanding organizational and leadership skills.

2. Calm and focused

When shaking hands, use appropriate strength, steady movements, and look the other person in the eye. People of this type are strong and frank, responsible and reliable, thoughtful and good at reasoning, and can often provide constructive advice to others. Whenever difficulties arise, he can always quickly come up with feasible solutions and is trusted by others.

3. Careless

When shaking hands, give only a gentle touch. Such people are easy-going and open-minded, never paranoid, and have a carefree attitude towards life, and are humble and follow the crowd.

4. Use both hands

When shaking hands, it is customary to hold the other person's hand with both hands. This type of person is warm-hearted, kind-hearted, and can open their hearts to their friends. Their emotions are clearly shown on their faces, and they have clear likes and dislikes.

5. Long-hold type

When shaking hands, hold the other person's hand for a long time. This type of person is emotionally rich and enjoys making friends. Once they establish a friendship, they will be loyal.

6. Grip with fingers

When shaking hands, only use your fingers to grasp the other person without your palms touching each other. This type of person has a calm yet sensitive personality and is easily excited. However, he is kind-hearted and compassionate.

7. Up and down swing type

When shaking hands, hold the other person tightly and shake up and down continuously. Such people are extremely optimistic and full of hope for life. They become objects of love and admiration because of their positive enthusiasm.

8. Avoid handshake

Some people never want to shake anyone's hand. This type of person is introverted and shy, conservative but sincere.

In social situations, in addition to shaking hands, which is a common gesture, there is another gesture that expresses one's mentality. You will have the pleasure of seeing all types of liars through their gestures. Although, you may not know he is lying at that time and place unless the lie is exposed on the spot. However, this situation is rare. Most people only realize it after the fact, because the lie has been put into action and revealed. And you are completely defenseless at that time. Maybe the liar is used to this and makes people believe him/her. However, there are always some actions or gestures that show that he/she has just told a lie, but you just didn't pay attention.

In the complex business interpersonal relationships, handshakes and unusual gestures are direct bases for judging the other person's character.

This article, "The Palmistry Code", is divided into nine chapters, which scientifically explain the wisdom of palmistry and life. The book lists discussions and examples from ancient and modern times, both at home and abroad, about how to see the wisdom from palmistry.

Although information about a person's wisdom can be obtained from his palms, this is only innate wisdom. If a person only has innate wisdom but no acquired wisdom, it cannot be considered wisdom. For example, no matter how smart a person is, he still needs to be educated from a young age. Whether one has received secondary or higher education, local or overseas, the difference is incomparable. Therefore, no matter how good a person's palmistry is, true knowledge still needs to be gained through practice.

Another example is nails. From ancient times to the present, many women who love beauty like to paint various kinds of oil paint on their nails. Today, many young women still carve their favorite flowers on their nails. Nails can be beautiful or ugly. Applying oil paint or painting flowers on them are all forms of concealment and modification, and are just a little acquired wisdom. The woman in the following story is a person with true wisdom.

It is said that during the Guangxu period, there was a woman named Yang Zhenyuan who liked to grow her nails. Her nails grew to more than two feet long over a period of more than ten years, and were later cut to several inches long. She has four methods for maintaining nails: first, the fingers should be bent frequently and not straightened; the nails should be protected with silver nails, which should be one inch longer than the nails and should be replaced once a year. Second, when washing, use a towel to wipe out the soap foam and wipe your nails to make your nails transparent. Third, the silver armor should be removed in summer to prevent the finger flesh from rotting, and in winter, the silver armor should be placed in oil to soften it and prevent it from weathering. Hands should be stretched when removing silver nails, bent when caring for nails, stretched when washing, and bent when bathing or sleeping. Fourth, you cannot use your nails to pick your ears or scratch. If your nails are damaged or white marks appear on the edges of your nails, you should cut them off in time and don't be reluctant to do so. If the climate is dry and the edges of your nails curl, you should place your fingers in warm water for care.

Yang Zhenyuan believes that nails have four uses: First, growing nails can suppress a violent temper, which is mainly for the purpose of protecting the nails. After a long time, people will no longer have a hot temper. Second, it can predict the weather. When it is about to rain, the lines between the nails turn yellow-white. It turns white when the sky is about to clear. When it is hot, there is moisture in the armor; when it is cold, the skin color at the base of the armor turns white. Third, it can be used to detect diseases. When you are about to get sick, your nails will become dry; when you are already sick, the roots of your nails will be pale and bloodless; when you are recovering, the roots of your nails will be pink; when you are healthy, your nails will be round, smooth and shiny. Another point is that after the illness, a section of the root of the nail will be exposed, and the section is obvious in serious illnesses, while in minor illnesses, the section is very small. Fourth, it can predict good and bad fortune. , accidentally breaking a nail is a bad omen. One year, Yang Zhen'ai's ring finger nail broke and her infant died; another time, her middle finger nail broke and she encountered a robber. Therefore, she believed that nails had the power of divination.

Human hands are the most widely used. Recording human civilization, writing immortal poems and songs, and inventing and creating are all accomplished through hands. However, the role and function of human hands are closely related to the function of the human brain. Human wisdom is actually embodied and practiced by hands. Zheng Banqiao, one of the Eight Eccentrics of Yangzhou, once said something that illustrates the problem very well: "In his mind there are thoughts that span the ages, and in his wrist there is a power that spans thousands of miles." It can be seen that the more thoughts flowing in a person's heart, the more earth-shaking miracles can be created by his wrist.

In short, the central purpose of this book is to enable readers to see a person's love, career, destiny and other aspects through systematic observation and analysis of palmistry. Through examples related to palmistry, readers can understand that the information revealed in palmistry is actually closely related to a person's destiny.

The above is the secret of handshake in social interaction: an introduction to judging people’s personality from their handshake. For more content, please pay attention to the palmistry encyclopedia on the Dream Interpreter website.