Appearance is determined by the heart: facial features and expressions, look at people's expressions and movements

Appearance is determined by the heart: facial features and demeanor, look at people's demeanor, expressions and movements

On Modality

(I) Zeng Guofan's discussion on the key points of judging people

Original text: Appearance is the surplus of bones, and often makes up for the deficiency of bones. Mood is the surplus of spirit and often makes up for the deficiency of spirit. Pay attention to people's spirit for a long time, and you will see their emotions. For adults, being shy is also good; for children, the more they jump and shout, the worse it is. The main purpose is to distinguish between clarity and turbidity, and the details include discussions on selection and rejection.

Colloquialism: A person's appearance is the reflection of his or her bone condition and can often make up for bone defects. Modality is the flow of spirit, and it can often make up for the deficiencies of spirit. When you look at someone for a long time, you should focus on his or her spirit; when you glance at someone quickly, you should first look at his or her demeanor. The behavior of great people, such as high-ranking officials, great scholars and monks, even if it is shy, can be regarded as a good sign; while the behavior of children, such as the crying, laughing, jumping and shouting of ordinary people, the more pretentious they are, the more childish and vulgar they appear. When observing people's moods, of course we have to distinguish between the clear and the turbid in the big picture. And when it comes to the details, we not only have to distinguish between the clear and the turbid, but also distinguish between the primary and the secondary. Only in this way can we make choices.

(II) Zeng Guofan's Common Approach to Viewing People

Original text: There is a weak state, a crazy state, a lazy state, and a maneuvering state. Birds rely on people with gentle feelings, which is a sign of weakness. Wearing no clothes or shoes and acting as if no one is around, this is a crazy behavior. Sitting and standing freely, answering questions casually, this is a lazy attitude. To conceal one's intention, to be serious, to observe words and expressions, to seek good fortune and avoid misfortune, is the attitude of maneuvering. They all follow the actual situation and do not try to correct the wrongs. Weak but not flattering, wild but not noisy, lazy but sincere, tactful and strong, all can become useful; otherwise, they are scum. Probably two or three.

Colloquial language: There are four common moods: the weak mood of being tactful and gentle, the wild mood of being unrestrained and uninhibited, the lazy mood of being negligent and indolent, and the tactful mood of being smooth and considerate in communication.

To put it in detail, it means being like a little bird, dependent on people, gentle and kind, which is the weak state; being untidy in clothes, unkempt, arrogant, looking down on everything, and acting as if no one is around, which is the crazy state; doing whatever you want, saying whatever you want, regardless of the occasion or taboos, which is the lazy state; hiding your intentions deeply, observing people's words and expressions, seeking good fortune and avoiding danger in everything, and being smooth and considerate when dealing with people, which is the tactful state. These emotions all come from the true feelings in one's heart and cannot be arbitrarily fabricated by one.

They are gentle and fragile but not fawning, unrestrained but not noisy, lazy and idle but honest and sincere, tactful in communication but strong and heroic, and they will all become useful talents in the future.

Those who are docile and weak but also fawning, those who are unruly but also noisy and noisy, those who are lazy and idle but not honest and innocent, those who are sociable but not strong and heroic, will all become useless waste in the future.

The mood changes unpredictably and is difficult to grasp accurately, but as long as you see the general situation, you can tell 20% to 30% who will become a useful person and who will become useless waste in the future.

(III) Zeng Guofan on the sudden changes in people’s attitudes

Original text: The former is a constant state, and also has a tense. When we were talking, his mind was suddenly elsewhere; when everyone was talking, he alone sneered; he is deep and dangerous and difficult to approach, not worth discussing with. He doesn't necessarily agree with what others say, but he slanders them deliberately without even knowing the person. He is despicable and shameful and is not worthy of discussing matters with him. She is indifferent to everything, slow to respond when faced with things, not very concerned, and even sheds tears; she has a woman's kindness and is not worth talking to. These three things are not necessarily lifelong. If you do the opposite, you can make friends with scholars all over the world.

Plain language: What was discussed in the previous chapter is the state that often occurs in people’s lives, which is called the constant state. In addition, there are several moods that do not appear frequently, which are called tenses.

The tenses are divided into the following categories:

1. For example, when he is talking to someone, he suddenly turns his eyes and thoughts to other places, which shows that he is insincere.

2. When everyone was talking and laughing happily, he was standing aside and sneering indifferently, which shows that he is cold and heartless. This kind of people are cunning and sinister, and you can't establish friendship with them;

3. The opinions expressed by others may not be completely appropriate, but he kept agreeing with them, which shows that he has no firm opinions.

4. Even before having any dealings with this person, he was already maliciously slandering and defaming him behind his back, which shows that he is a person who talks nonsense and is irresponsible. Such people are vulgar, despicable and shameful, and we cannot cooperate with them.

5. No matter what happens, he will not make a decision, and once the matter comes, he will hesitate and hesitate, which shows that he is indecisive.

6. When he encountered something that was not worth getting emotional about, he cried and became very emotional, which shows that he lacks reason. The kindness of this kind of people is purely womanly, and you cannot be sincere with them.

Although the above-mentioned states of mind may not necessarily determine a person's fate for life. But if you can seek the kinds of people mentioned above, then you can make friends with almost all the people in the world.

Author’s note: The above is already very detailed, and we will supplement it with modern physiognomy.

1. Judging people by their sitting posture

(1) The person who wants to sit next to the other person wants to be friendly with the other person and wants to get close to the other person.

(2) People who cross their legs when sitting down are more proud or less particular.

2. Knowing people by their greetings

(1) Greeting someone by looking them in the eye, intending to be in a superior position to the other person and always thinking that one is stronger than the other person.

(2) Avoiding the other person’s gaze when greeting, feeling inferior in front of the other person, being shy, and being cautious in dealing with others.

(3) People who greet others in an especially cordial manner when meeting them for the first time are motivated by a desire to turn the situation in their favor.

(4) People who meet often but always greet each other in the same way are self-defensive and inconsistent in their words and deeds.

3. Recognize a man by his behavior

(1) Men who value theory pay attention to order, emphasize logic and are methodical in their approach to things.

(2) A man who appears to be extremely serious and solemn, but is neurotic, rigid, inflexible, uncalculating, and poor at conversation.

(3) Men who like noise and fun, are not willing to have a serious relationship but love to have fun with women.

(4) A man who is good at flattery and is particularly docile, imaginative, somewhat romantic, frivolous, and has an empty personality and is highly variable.

(5) Men who make an ugly first impression are the devoted type. He likes to show his personality and will not be humble. He gets angry when he is despised and will repay the respect when he is respected.

(6) Popular men are very popular with women, but they are also easily misunderstood by women, especially those who are narrow-minded, jealous, and envious.

(7) A self-willed man who likes to show off, has a strong sense of self-esteem, is competitive, has a clear distinction between love and hate, respects good people, and easily succumbs to calm people.

(8) A man who is arrogant and looks down on others, is not sociable and likes to be alone.

(9) A man who is considerate, humorous, and sociable, but has a changeable personality.

(10) A man who is careless in his dressing and behavior and is particularly casual is uneducated and has no knowledge.

4. Recognize a woman from her behavior

(I) Women who deliberately avoid the gaze of the opposite sex and pretend to be indifferent, eagerly look forward to love, and have good intentions towards the opposite sex.

(2) Women who are particularly shy in front of men, are curious, care about men but don’t want to be known.

(3) Shameless women do not allow their partners to be frivolous and are also more jealous.

(4) Women who use pink lipstick have a weak sexual awareness, hate sexual issues, and only like entertainment and food.

(5) A woman who likes to nitpick, has a black-and-white personality, is willful, and lonely. Being too fussy about personal interests and worrying about gains and losses.

(6) A woman who is serious about everything may seem friendly at first, but soon the relationship changes suddenly and she becomes a completely different person.

(7) A headstrong woman treats love as a joke, is fickle, loves to nag, and talks nonsense.

(8) Women who look younger than their actual age are unable to resist the pursuit of men and often succumb to the temptation of amorous men.

(9) Women who like dancing can easily become immersed in the emotions of the atmosphere.

(10) Women who appear to be confused as to what they are thinking cannot resist gifts and often end up in a relationship without a happy ending.

The above is what the editor brings to you: Appearance is determined by the heart: Look at people’s facial expressions and gestures, I hope it will be helpful to you! For more guides, please continue to pay attention to the "Appearance is determined by the heart" special topic on the Dream Interpreter website!